A nursery nurse from Burgess Hill who suffered a still birth is raising money for charity to mark what would be her son’s tenth birthday.
Jane Isherwood, 39, is running the Brighton Big Fun Run with friends and family to raise money for Midwives and Parents Support Group (MAPS) on July 20.
She described her first pregnancy: “Max was our first child and at 30 weeks I realised something was wrong, a scan showed us what I had suspected, but it all felt like a bad dream knowing that I would then have to give birth and not take our baby home, it was the worst feeling imaginable.”
Max, was born on July 29, 2004.
“For a long time it felt like we were in a very bad nightmare, but we never woke up.
“Things get easier but Max is never far from our thoughts, we talk about him openly with our boys Harry, who is seven and Owen, who is four, we know we are very lucky to have them.”
MAPS provide support, yearly remembrance services and a tree of remembrance at Christmas.
Jane continued: “They provide a private room for you to spend time with your baby, this was very important for us to be able to say goodbye in our own time.”
She has been with her husband Steven Isherwood for 16 years and married for 12.
“We are lucky to have supportive friends and family,who are either running or supporting us on the day, but we always knew MAPS were just a phone call away for advice and support in the days, weeks, months and years,” Jane said.
There are now 25 people taking part in the run at Hove Park, including friends with their children and the bereavement midwife from Princess Royal Hospital in Haywards Heath.
Jane said: “All the staff at the hospital were fantastic and at the time Pam Parsons, who set up MAPS and now has an MBE for her fantastic work, spent lots of time with us explaining what would happen, reassuring us that Max would be treated with love and respect.
“I cant thank my husband Steve enough for keeping strong when he just wanted to crumble too.”
She has since worked as a nursery nurse on the maternity ward at the Princess Royal, working with some of those who were with her through her three births.
“I now work in the community with the health visiting team, my mum continues to knit beautiful baskets for the babies that are sadly also born sleeping.”
“We feel this would be a tribute to him,whilst helping support other families going through similar situations by raising much needed funds for MAPS,” she explained.
Make donations at www.justgiving.com/janeish
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